The Mind is a Magical Playground with Hidden Nooks and Crannies

This morning, I was waking X up.  And out of nowhere–honestly, I didn’t realize I was about to do this until I was already in the middle of doing it–I started singing.  Did I start singing “The Day Dawn is Breaking” which is the morning song I’ve been singing to my kids for the past 16 years?  I don’t really sing it to X anymore, but it would make sense that that WOULD be the song I absent-mindedly started singing.

No, I started singing “Wake up all the children, no more sleeping in bed…”  Do you even recognize that song?

How about now?  It’s a song that my mom used to play a lot when I was little.  Apparently it came out in 1975 and I would say I haven’t heard since since 1983 maybe.  At first I didn’t remember anything beyond that line.  But as I gave my brain a little room to stretch its leg, lo and behold, it came up with all the rest of the lyrics after just a few minutes.

I wonder why it pulled that dusty song out of my archives then?  Isn’t that just so fascinating?

Overheard

On my way to bed last night, I passed Mack carrying a plunger…

Mack:  Kelvinator, can you show me how to plunge a toilet?

And then while we were in bed, the Hubba and I overheard Kelvinator patiently explaining exactly how to do it.

My favorite part was that I didn’t have to take part in any of it.

Fully Loaded Baked Potato Muffins

Just a reminder.  This is not a food blog.  If that’s what you came for, move along.

So lunches have had me stymied for a while now and I think I served PB&J three days in a row.  I hate that.  So on Saturday I took some time to make muffins.  I made pumpkin muffins.  But then I also wanted something savory.  So I turned to my good friend google and pulled up some recipes.  What looked the best to me was the fully loaded baked potato muffins.

Ingredients

  • 4 slices bacon
  • 1 cup mashed potatoes*
  • 1¼ cups cheddar, grated
  • 2 Tbsp fresh chives, chopped
  • 1½ cups unbleached flour
  • 3 tsp baking powder
  • ½ tsp freshly ground black pepper
  • ¼ tsp salt
  • ½ cup sour cream
  • ½ cup milk
  • 2 eggs, lightly beaten
  • * This is a great use for dry, leftover mashed potatoes but if you don’t have any leftovers simply peel, boil and mash 1 large potato. No need to add any additional butter or milk in this case, we’re after a drier mash.

Instructions

  1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees.
  2. Cook bacon until crispy then coarsely chop it up.
  3. In a large bowl, mix flour, baking powder, salt and pepper together.
  4. Add coarsely chopped bacon, chives, 1 cup of cheddar and potatoes and mix to combine.
  5. Add sour cream, milk and eggs and stir until just combined- do not overmix.
  6. Lightly grease a muffin tray. Spoon ~1/4 cup of batter into each of the muffin tins. Sprinkle the tops of the muffins with the last ¼ cup of cheddar.
  7. Bake for 20 minutes, until the muffins have risen and a toothpick inserted into the center of one comes out clean.

It was kind of time intensive because I had to cook up the bacon first.  And since I didn’t have any mashed potatoes, I peeled and boiled four small potatoes, too.  After I mashed up the potatoes, I couldn’t believe that I shouldnt salt them.  The recipe calls for so little salt!  So I salted those babies until they tasted good.

When I scooped the “batter” (It’s really too chunky to be called batter!) into the tins I was worried.  But after about ten minutes I opened the oven to check on them and oh my heavenly goodness.  The smell was intoxicating!  And they were puffing up into the best looking muffins I have ever made in my life!  They were gorgeous!

Unfortunately, though, they did not taste as good as they looked and smelled.  I found them really bland.  Like they could have used double the bacon and chives.  Maybe more cheese as well.  And there was only one bite where I could even taste the potato at all.  They definitely weren’t bad, but when you eat a loaded baked potato you are expecting a lot of flavor.  This did not deliver.

Still, I’d definitely like to try again.  With more bacon and chives.  And possibly some instant mashed potatoes or premade mashed potatoes  (real mashed potatoes with butter and milk and salt and everything).

I also want to try these other recipes, too.

Cheesy sausage chive muffins

Savory Ham Cheese and Spinach Muffins

 

Medical Sidenote

I recently took all the kids to the doctor.  Everyone was healthy, but when the doctor looked in one of Wink’s ears she said it was a little red and asked if she had been sick recently.  I mentioned that she had had a fever a couple weeks before Christmas.  The doctor said, “That’s probably it.  She also has a swollen gland but that’s normal to take a month or two for the swelling to go down after an infection.”  Then she explained that they usually don’t prescribe antibiotics for ear infections unless there is uncontrolled pain.  And since Wink wasn’t in any pain, there was nothing to worry about and to just let her know if the fever came back.

I was like, no problem.  We aren’t big antibiotic fans anyway.

I like to just do one vaccination at a time and at the end of the appointment, the doctor was assuring me that vaccinations are safe and her own kids are fully vaccinated and encouraging me to catch my kids up.

And the irony was just so intense.

Because I remembered that when Baboo was a baby, she was on so many rounds of antibiotics because every time I took her in to the doctor she had signs of an ear infection.  Whether she was in pain or not, whether she had a fever or not.  Just look in the ear, see something red or bulgy, prescribe antibiotics.  So many antibiotics.

When she was 7, I finally decided to just let the ear infections play out because a round of antibiotics lasted 7 to 10 days and letting the body take care of the infection was expected to last 7 to 10 days anyway.  I was so frightened at first.  But instead of giving her antibiotics adn sending her to school, I actually took care of her.  She stayed home and I gave her a warm, moist compress on her ear.  I increased her vitamins and supplemented with other things to support her immune systerm.  She stayed home and rested.  It took a couple days and she felt better.  And despite the fact that she had a plethora of ear infections up until that point, she never had another ear infection after that.

And I stopped using antibiotics.  So I would take a kid in and they’d get diagnosed with an ear infection.  If I told the doctor that I’d just let their body heal it themselves, I’d get a big lecture on how devastating untreated ear infections could be and how it could lead to having ear drums rupture and even loss of hearing.  The doctors would totally badger me and I actually felt very threatened.  Threatened enough that I stopped saying what I was going to do and just started silently taking the prescription with no intention of filling it, but at least knowing enough to keep my mouth shut about it.

So there I was being told (ten years later) that the way I had chosen to treat ear infections was NOW agreed upon medically as the best course of action.  Of course, this lady was much younger than I was and I’m guessing that her career didn’t span back as far as my experience.  She probably thought that those in her profession had always been telling me to treat ear infections this way.  She had no idea of my history with the treatment.

So I found it a little ironic as she was trying to convince me about vaccinations as if her profession new everything and just because they said it was safe and good now meant that they would always see it that way.  And the undeserved condescension as if I didn’t know that I had been right about antibiotics the entire time.

 

Irreconcilable Differences and False Dichotomies

I dislike posting political things.  My ideas about politics definitely change and evolve over time.  I guess you could say I’m a flip-flopper.  Or a an adult with a changing world view who is not so entrenched in her own ideas that someone making a good argument can’t change my mind.  Still, it’s hard to pin yourself down to something that you may later disagree with.  However, when I found myself wide awake at 2am having an internal dialogue (monologue?) with myself about this, I figured I might as well write down my thoughts and hopefully then I can go back to sleep.

I was just scrolling down my facebook feed a few days ago when I came across this post that was written on my friend’s wall, that she had liked.  Perhaps she reposted it.  I don’t know what facebook magic was at play, but I read this post several times in the period of a couple of hours.

A very concise explanation of how the GOP would ‘privatize’ health care. Here’s what needs to be understood:

When Trump or Paul Ryan say they want to replace the ACA with “Health Savings Accounts” (HSA), they are also saying they want to replace Obamacare or Medicare or Medicaid with YOU paying for your healthcare. That means YOU pay for chemotherapy, YOU pay for all surgeries and hospitalization, YOU pay for all your family’s doctor visits, urgent care, ER visits, and prescription drugs out-of-our-pocket. An HSA is just a tax-free way for you to save up money to pay for your own medical bills. So, if you are paying off college loans, or saving for a house down-payment, or simply living paycheck to paycheck, guess what — an HSA does you no good, because you have no discretionary funds to deposit into it. And, even if you manage to save five grand or ten grand in an HSA, that could all get wiped out in one hospital visit for you or a family member. Then you are back to square zero again. Even if you can supplement your HSA with affordable health insurance, you will be eating away at money that you should be investing for your retirement or your kids’ college tuition. It’s important to note that only the top 3-5% of Americans can save enough for retirement, college AND their own out-of-pocket medical expenses. Therefore, the tax benefits of HSA’s only help 3-5% of Americans. Please call your Congress Member to protest this.

The thing that really caught my attention about this post was all the “YOU”s.  Because I found myself thinking, “Who else should be paying for it?  Who, exactly, is responsible for my healthcare expenses, if not me?”  I’m no health insurance expert, so I’ll leave Medicare out for now since I know next to nothing about that program.  But if you have health insurance through your employer, you are still paying for most of your health insurance.  It’s deducted from your paycheck.  It varies from employer to employer how much they can or choose to contribute to that.  I don’t know statistics about what the percentage is, but from my limited experience, what I’ve learned from people I know as we talk about it, the general sense I have is that employers are contributing about $200 to $1200 insurance plans.  With Medicaid and the ACA, “the government” is subsidizing healthcare.  But the government makes its money from taxes.  So it really comes back to us paying for healthcare anyway.  Just not necessarily our own healthcare.  Or at least paying for others’ healthcare as well as our own.

What else struck me about the above quote is what happens if you replace all the healthcare terms with, say, “clothing” or “food” or “braces” or “haircuts”.  It makes me wonder if the person who penned this believes that healthcare is its own sacrosanct class or if they feel like there are other things that we are entitled to have but not required to pay for.

As I was trying to find the quote, I also came across this on her timeline.

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Healthcare is a human right.  So how do you even define what healthcare is?  I mean you have to start with that if it’s a human right.  My understanding of what most people mean by this is access to western medicine.  Doctors, specialists, hospitals, drugs manufactured by big pharma, the latest technology.  But how can that be a human right when those things didn’t exist 200 years ago?  Also, what about someone like me who prefers “alternative”, non-western types of healthcare?  Right now, even with the ACA, chiropractic care isn’t even covered much of the time.  But I shouldn’t have to pay for it.  It’s my right to have chiropractic care.  But it costs, so which of my friends and neighbors is going to provide me with my basic human right?  And what if no one wants to go into the medical profession anymore because they get sued too much, work long hours, and don’t get enough pay or vacation time?  What if there is only one doctor left in the entire country?  If healthcare is a human right, is that doctor violating our human rights if he doesn’t give up his life to take care of all of us?  Or do we start forcing people into the profession so that the rest of us can have the healthcare that we are entitled to by birth?

Now I do understand what they are saying about HSAs.  We have not had employer provided health insurance for most of our married lives.  We have had to pay for private insurance on our own.  And we have had that HSA that we could never afford to put any money into.  I totally get that.  And it’s not idea.  I might even go so far as to say it sucks, actually.  But if we aren’t going to put money into it, then who?  Who is obligated to pay for our healthcare?

So I think there’s just a fundamental difference in how people see healthcare.  I can see that the author above, and my friend, are motivated by compassion.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with compassion.  I mean, really?  Who wants to see someone suffer when care is available?

But I think we have created a false dichotomy.  We see the issue right now as black or white, for or against, compassion or ….cruelty? cold-heartedness?  But that is not all there is.  In our zeal to take sides and push our ideas through (which both sides have done–the Democrats voting the ACA in despite huge Republican outcry just because they had the numbers to do it, and the Republicans repealing the ACA as soon as they got the numbers to do it), we stopped thinking.  We stopped being creative.  There are more than two options.

I’ve spent a lot of time searching for the video I am about to talk about, but just can’t find it again.  If anyone knows what I’m talking about, send me a link!

Anyway, this election cycle, with all the talk of Mexico and building a wall, there was a video of Ronald Reagan circulating.  In this video he was asked about the immigration problem and what we should do.  It’s possible it was suggested that we build a wall or a fence, I’m not entirely sure anymore.  And right now, those basically seem to be the two sides of the issue now–build a wall and keep those darned illegal immigrants out of our country or offer amnesty to everyone who’s already here.  If you’re on the wall side, then you’re a cruel, heartless, racist ethnocentrist.  If you are on the amnesty side, you have no sense of laws or economics and you don’t care about the burden that’s placed on the border states.

But Reagan’s answer to the question was not A) build a wall or B) amnesty.  He basically said that the problem of illegal immigration stems from the disparity in economics and safety between Mexico and the US.  That is what is driving so many people to leave their homeland and come here looking for a better life.  And until THAT problem was fixed, there would be no solution to the border problem.

It was like he had just said, I’m not taking sides on how to treat this symptom.  I’m diagnosing the disease and want to find a cure.  It seemed to make sense, seeing as we don’t really have a problem with illegal Canadian immigrants.  That’s because socially and economically, the opportunities in both countries are about the same.

I think our healthcare dilemma is also a false dichotomy.  I don’t think we’re going to be able to solve our problems by either A) offering free healthcare to all or B) letting people suffer and die because only the wealthy can afford healthcare.  I think we need to address the underlying problems that make healthcare so unaffordable in the first place.

The problem is much deeper and requires so much reform.  I actually don’t think it’s possible, in the same way we still haven’t been able to fix our relationship with Mexico in the past three decades since Reagan said that.  But that’s how I see the problem now and the only way to fix things.

So this is what I think of health care in no particular order.

  1.  Insurance increases the cost of health care because there is a giant third party making a profit off of healthcare.  If only healthcare providers were making a profit, costs could come down.
  2. Healthcare providers get sued a lot.  This means they have expensive malpractice insurance policies and so have to charge more and also have less job satisfaction and more stress.  I believe the reason for this is two fold:
    1. Patients aren’t very involved in their own care, otherwise known as doctors have a god complex.  The doctor says “this is what you need to do” and if you don’t agree, tough luck.  I think if patients were much more informed about risks, benefits and the outcomes they can expect, and involved in the decision making, they would be less likely to sue.
    2. Litigation worries preclude apologies.  Saying “I’m sorry” when you’ve done something wrong is the quickest way to diffuse a situation.  But in healthcare, especially in hospitals, no one is allowed to admit a mistake because of liability issues.  That means that when something goes wrong, patients get stonewalled and then become angry.  They are more likely to sue.
  3. Western medicine is centered on treating disease symptoms rather than helping a whole person stay healthy and happy.  This is why, for instance, it’s cheaper for you to go see a doctor than to get a gym membership.  It’s also why insurance companies will pay for prescription drugs but not vitamins or supplements.  About the only preventative measures we have available to us is vaccinations.
  4. Billing practices.  Whether you are seeing a doctor or have a hospital stay, there is no transparency of how much any of it will cost.  I have been in a doctor’s office and been recommended a test.  I ask, “Ballpark.  How much will that cost?”  And they often have no idea.  Or sometimes the estimate has been way off.  Imagine if you went into  your mechanic and he told you you needed work done but couldn’t give you a quote.  And you’re thinking, “Is this going to cost $100 or $1000?  Obviously, medical issues are more complex, but there are some things that should be known ahead of time.  For instance, how much a visit to the office will cost.  I remember one time taking a child in who had persistent stomach pain.  The doctor couldn’t figure it out, just before leaving they decided to try one last test.  Basically, there was this little plastic tube thingy they wanted my daughter to breathe into.  It took about ten seconds and they knew immediately the test was negative. It turns out that one little test was $125.  And here I was thinking the whole time it was just part of the office visit.  Also, why are things so expensive in the hospital?  At the store you can get a bottle of Tylenol for $5.  In the hospital one pill could be $20.
  5. Healthcare waste.  A while ago, our next door neighbor was a medical student.  He thought he wanted to go into Pediatrics until he had his pediatrics rotation.  He told me that in an entire week he had spent working in Pediatrics that there had only been one child sick enough to actually warrant the visit.  That child had a collapsed lung.  Most of what he saw was just colds that didn’t need even need prescription medication.  Can you imagine how much this costs multiplied across the entire nation?

I dunno.  There’s probably more.  But it’s past 4am now.  I’m feeling pretty sleepy and I kind of regret this long post because it’s not really deep and/or thought provoking.  I don’t have a lot of great ideas.  I think I can probably go back to sleep now, though.  So I guess it served its purpose.

 

#5 Memory Lane

After the internship, we moved back for the Hubba to finish up school.  I was alread a few months pregnant and wanted another legitimate place.  But not something scary, disgusting or roach-infested.  Tough order, I know.

So we moved here.

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This is pretty much what it looked like when we lived there.  Now it’s red!

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To be honest, there have been so many changes that I wasn’t really sure these were the right apartments.  And the photos are of an apartment where everything is backwards from our apartment.  So I just wasn’t sure…

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Until I saw the above photo!  Then I knew for sure.  We actually have a video from when Wiyah was born.  She was just a tiny baby and for some reason, the Hubba and I took her and Baboo out for a walk after dark on evening.  We brought a video camera and though we taped everything, there wasn’t really enough light to see much.  What you could see, looked exactly like this photo.

What I liked about this place was that it was big enough (750 sq ft) with two bedrooms.  I also really just liked the rounded window on the north wall.  We had the option of choosing the top or bottom floor.  Like an idiot, a chose the top apartment because it actually had a wood burning fireplace in one corner.  I just loved the idea of having a fireplace and it just…felt homey and was different from other apartments.  We also had a one year old and I was constantly worried about her falling and hitting herself on that huge thing that took up like 1/6 of the space in the living room.  Not to mention, with winter temps in the 60s we never even used it.

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In our apartment, that window on the right looked over the parking lot.  But on the other side of the parking lot was a Little Caesar’s Pizza where we got two large pizzas for $8.88 quite frequently.

So many upgrades!  This place looks so much nicer than when we lived here.  I mean, it was great.  But this looks even better.  The door that is open on the right is looking into another apartment across the way with an open door.  I remember wondering how on earth I could get toddler Baboo and baby Wiyah AND the laundry basket down the stairs to do laundry.  I eventually settled on putting baby Wiyah IN the basket with the dirty laundry.

This was the apartment we lived in when the lightbulb in my brain first turned on about housecleaning.  I realized that the kitchen felt so much cleaner if you just kept all the cupboards shut.  Such a simple fix.  But in my house, growing up, all the cupboards were kept open at all times.

Also, this was the place where I was complaining to a friend of mine about how I had completely cleaned my kitchen five days ago and now it was a mess again.  And her response was “You can go five days without washing dishes?”  And that was the first moment that I realized that some people do dishes or clean their kitchens every day.  Honestly, that thought had never crossed my mind before.

And then I had a job for a couple of months before Wiyah was born where I was babysitting a baby boy.  Every day before his mom would come over, I would quickly clean up my kitchen so she wouldn’t see it messy.  That was the first time I cleaned on a daily basis.

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Yeah.  So many upgrades.  That’s all I can say.

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We left this apartment after only 6 months because the Hubba got accepted to law school and we moved to this state.  I think we paid $550/month to live here.

The Details Escape Me

I’ve been saving these photos to remind me about events.  I’ve been planning on blogging for a few weeks.  And today is the day!  Only I can’t remember what most of these photos are supposed to be reminding me to blog about!

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Wiyah’s missionary companion got married in November.  She and her husband came for a visit!

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I remember snagging this photo.  I also remember that three of them were actually standing against the wall swaying their hips from side to side.  But I can’t remember why!

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Baboo got Wink this “quilt” kit as her Secret Santa gift this season.  She just started putting it together a few days ago. Pink, and I helped her out a little bit and even X helped put a square on this afternoon.

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Pink and Wink started blogs recently.  (Sorry, they are private!)  Pink was taking some photos to be used on the blog.

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We had some errands to run at the bank!

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Wiyah and Wink singing and playing the ukulele while Pink reads Michael Vey.

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Pink made an awesome turtle costume with some Christmas leftovers!

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With all the snow we had after Christmas, the girls made a snow tunnel.  It was pretty cool.  And when I left one evening, the streetlight was glowng through it making it look so cool!

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Warming up on the beanbags by the fire.  The most coveted, warmest spot in the whole house.

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Almost all the kids having a slumber party in the girls’ room after Christmas.  Did I already post this one?  I can’t remember…

Overheard and a Q for you

The other day I was repeating Mack’s last overheard to the Hubba and just laughing in joyous delight.  The Hubba was looking at me, kind of sheepishly perplexed…

Hubba:  You always write those things that Mack says.  But I just don’t get what’s so remarkable about them.

So what about you, Reader?  Are you as delighted by Mack as I am and think that his questions and thoughts are totally worth saving?  Or do you wonder why I even include them?

Publicans and Sinners

Donald Trump is about to be our next president.  And there is a lot of controversy about that.  I have definite opinions about some of those things.  But I’m trying to make this post a politically neutral post so I’m keeping those opinions to myself.

Being LDS, I am also aware of the specific criticisms that our church is receiving (from within and without) because of two situations.

  1.  The Mormon Tabernacle Choir is singing at his inauguration.
  2. Two apostles will be attending the inauguration.

Because of the amount of controversy over this particular presidential election, the attendance at this event is being seen as making some sort of a statement of endorsement, even though the choir and apostles and have a long-standing history of attending past inaugurations.

And like I said, there’s a lot that can be said about that, which I am refraining from saying.  My purpose in that is because I want to emphasize this one point.

Let’s just say that Donald Trump is all the negative things that people say about him.  I’m not putting up any argument that he is.  I’m saying, for the sake of argument let’s just assume that he is as vile a person who is unqualified for this office of president as we ever seen in the history of our country.

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And it came to pass, that, as Jesus sat at meat in his house, many publicans and sinners sat also together with Jesus and his disciples: for there were many, and they followed him.

And when the scribes and Pharisees saw him eat with publicans and sinners, they said unto his disciples, How is it that he eateth and drinketh with publicans and sinners?

When Jesus heard it, he saith unto them, They that are whole have no need of the physician, but they that are sick: I came not to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance.

Jesus found himself in that exact position where the Pharisees expected him to make a statement, take a side, prove a point by rejecting the company of these Publicans–hated Jewis tax-collecters that were seen as traitors for supporting and helping to contribute to the Romans.   Even the phrase “publicans and sinners” showed how the people felt about them because of the job they chose to do.  It was completely political.

And yet, he broke bread with the publicans and sinners.  And we would expect no less from the Savior of the World who loves us all so much.  His atonement was planned and executed for us as well as for the “publicans and sinners.”

And I belong to the Church of Jesus Christ.  This church has at its head prophets and apostles who are special witnesses of Jesus Christ, who bear his name, who invite all to come unto him.

Of course the choir and the apostles will be attending the inauguration.

Overheard

While driving Mack to school…

Mack:  Mom, what’s the biggest cell you know?

Me: Hahaha.  I have no idea!

Mack:  Aw, come on.  Just name any cell.

Me:  I don’t know the names of any cells!

Mack:  Ok, like bacteria…I think they’re single-cells.  E. coli.  Amoeba.  Just name any one.

Me:  Ok, bacteria.

Mack:  Ostrich Egg!  I think that’s the biggest cell.

Me:  How do you know that?  Because in science my teacher told me that all eggs are single cells.  And the Ostrich egg is the biggest.  So that must be the biggest cell.

Mack:  The thing I don’t get is you know how cells have those organelles in them?  Where are they in an ostrich egg.  Wouldn’t you be able to just see them?

I used to think that science was boring, fact-regurgitating, dry, lifeless uninteresting stuff.  But Mack is proving to me on an almost daily basis that the TRULY imaginitive people are scientists.  His brain is amazing.  He is constantly asking me questions about how the world works that I have neve questioned and don’t care about even when the question is posed.  But he finds it all absolutely fascinating and I don’t even know how he comes to think up some of the questions he asks me.  His favorite class in school is Ceramics.  But his second favorite is Science.

Also, he’s right.  I googled it.